To live a life deprived of money, fun, love, and excitement, is to practically live the life of a machine. Today I will be presenting my top 10 tips on how to be happy with life, and hopefully help you get the most out of it!
I meet many people so focused on one aspect of their lives that they miss the other exceptional parts of them. It is really sad to see people who may very well be more intelligent or more gifted than me, live a life that is sub-par.
Our abilities as human beings were not designed to be perfect or supernatural per se, instead we were created with irrational emotions and brains that can lean so far left or right that we miss what’s right in front of us. I’m talking from experience here.
If I’m not living my life to the fullest, logically there is a reason why. Consequently, if you want to live the best life you can live, the following tips will give you clarity on how to do so.
Let’s get right into this 🙂
10 Tips On How To Be Happy With Life:
1. Accept Failure As A Lesson… With A Varying Price Tag
This is especially relevant or relatable to young people. There are so many factors that contribute to the mentality that “the world is coming to an end because I failed”!
On paper, it is easy to refute this irrational mindset, but it is still subconsciously and mentally allowed to run rampant among every generation. Why? Because people have tunnel vision.
T. Harv Eker has a saying: “What you focus on expands”.
If I focus on the tiny pimple on my face, it is easy to ignore the appealing features that I might have. I’m not trying to be egotistical here, but I think you get the point.
People like me aren’t necessarily perfectionists, but I like to take pride in my work. If I am not living up to the standards that I have set for myself or my work, I feel upset and unhappy. I don’t feel good, and I don’t feel confident.
The reality is, failure is really a lesson we can learn from… It usually just costs us something different every time.
People Are Too Hard On Themselves
The cost of failure varies, but it is an opportunity to grow and become better! This is not always easy but is a life lesson I know I will relearn every day as I strive to live the best life I can.
That is not to say I’m perfect or that I could ever be perfect, but that my definition of a “good” life is not going to be defined by my performance. My life is going to be defined by no one else but me.
With that in mind, the following tip comes to mind…
2. You Define Who You Are, Make Yourself Awesome & Rich!
If you are going to tell a story about yourself, why not make it a good one? People are always going to have opinions of you and me. It is going to happen because people like to share.
If someone has a negative opinion of themselves, that affects their worldview and consequently how they see me. I could be the most agreeable person on the planet but they could still despise everything about me.
It is crucial in this day and age to decide who you are going to be, and what you stand for. People will say nasty things about you, and will tell you who they think you are. Many times they couldn’t be farther from the truth! You and I have to decide this for ourselves.
We have an entire generation growing up today with the ideology that they need approval, money, sex, clothing, shoes, cars, hobbies or technology to be happy. The truth is they don’t know what they need or want.
This should be a sobering thought considering how many people will openly voice their opinions acting like objective, factual information backs their worldview. They feel completely justified when they go out and criticize successful people or anyone that doesn’t agree with them.
Don’t Be Your Critic, Be Your Biggest Fan
We have enough people in today’s society who are so caught up in the inessentials that they don’t prioritize anymore. They lack the ability to discern value and wisdom.
I don’t need to be a critic of myself, I need to be my biggest supporter! The moment I stop chewing myself out is the moment I can start dwelling in positivity and progress!
3. Be Better, Faster, Stronger, Richer x10
If you have ever heard the Daft Punk song this heading is based off of, then you already know where is going. People need to get moving and level up!
There are too many mediocre people in society today. A perfect example is the average male person in America today. If they are seen with the following qualities, they are considered above average:
- Doesn’t curse or swear
- Fit or “In Shape”
- Fluent in 2 or more languages
- Family man
- Good job or decent income
- High School graduate
- Clean, takes care of his appearance
- Kind to kids, respects elders
- Up to date on recent news
Here’s what I think when I see someone like this…
These Qualities Are Expected As A Bare Minimum Requirement
All of these traits have not only been expected in previous generations, but were the bare minimum required if you intended to be a part of “respectable” society. People compliment me on traits I consider common sense!
The sad reality we face today, is that people don’t live up to these standards. Go back not even a hundred years ago and tell me people didn’t meet nearly item listed. At least in the US.
People with these qualities should not be “above average“, but they are. Strive to achieve these attributes for yourself!
4. Shoot For The Stars, But Be Content With Everything
In the event you are anything like myself, you tend to mess up, a lot.
This is not something to be depressed or angry about, indeed our weaknesses are a sign of our humanity and our affinity towards “winning”. We like to win and we don’t like it when we fail.
But as I stated, failure is but a lesson in disguise.
The other side to this, is succeeding, but not being happy with the results. You seek to get a good job, or build a business, or invest your money, and you generate less than you expected.
People with a “one way or the highway” mentality are often left unfulfilled with their life. Some wealthy individuals have been interviewed after achieving great affluence, and are still discontent. They might not be depressed, but they aren’t satisfied nonetheless.
Your Circumstances Don’t Determine Your Happiness, Two Different “Happy’s”
There is a saying that many people have reiterated over the course of generations: “Happiness is a choice.” This saying has stuck with me.
People who don’t understand this concept are obviously thinking in terms of the emotion, “Joy” or “Elation”. There is a problem with the idea that “happiness” and “elation” are the same things.
The happiness many people seek is one of fulfillment and satisfaction, but what they really mean is the emotion behind such things!
Which brings me to my next point…
5. Don’t Let Emotions Cloud Your Judgment… About Anything!
If you hope to understand reality and truly understand what it means to be “happy” in every area of life, you must first understand that you will never be “happy” 24/7!
People don’t understand that happiness is not found in the emotional aspect of life, but rather the conscious decision to “feel” a certain way, if you will.
People say, “I don’t feel like doing it”. This usually is indicative of two things:
1. They aren’t feeling well or are under the weather.
2. They simply don’t want to do it.
Feelings Are Valuable, Not Paramount
If you were to ask me if I like getting up at the crack of dawn for my full time job as a customer service rep, work 8 hours with short breaks, and then proceed to work several hours on my part-time business, my short but succinct reply would be, “No, no I do not”.
Do I feel like getting up at an early hour and going to bed early? No. Would I rather stay up late or sleep in? Yes. But there are consequences for acting upon such emotions.
If I acted solely upon my emotions, I wouldn’t get up for work, work on my business, write articles, read my Bible, read self-improvement or Financial Success Books, in fact, I probably wouldn’t do much except goof off to whatever I “felt” I wanted to do.
This leads to laziness. However, there is another problem people face today, and that is never doing Anything fun!
6. Get A Hobby! You Deserve It!
People need recreation, people need to let off steam, enjoy social gatherings and pursue their interests. Make no mistake, if your life is filled with all work and no play, you will burn out.
My hobbies keep me reminded that I’m free to do what I desire, and that every action I take in my life I make out of conscious choice! To take responsibility not only for one’s business or finances is key to a healthy intellect and vibrant countenance.
There are numerous outlets for both calculative and creative minds alike. One has only to search, “The Top Hobby’s for Men”, or “The Best Projects For Women”, and realize just how many ways you can have fun!
7. Find Ways To Help Others
One such a way to find fulfillment in recreational activity would be to start mentoring or tutoring others. There are many sayings and quotes surrounding this concept. The idea of teaching or helping others has been a driving force for many innovations.
People get so much more out of helping others than is realized. People get a sense of purpose, and feel their value with every opportunity to assist others in their growth or with their needs.
If you want to find purpose and pleasure in life, helping others is easily one of the best ways to do so. I know this has been true for myself at least.
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I hope these tips on how to be happy with life have helped you and will help you live the life you deserve!
Be sure to leave me a comment below with your thoughts and feel free to email me with any questions you may have!